Well, he is right...you do need to either accept him as he is now, or let him go. Those are your only two real choices. If the way he is right now, today, is not what you want, then you should let him go. He has the right to live his life however he wants. But then, so do you. The thing is, you can't control him, you can only control yourself. You can't sit around waiting for him to be what you want him to be. He is what he is. So...do you want what he is, or not?