This is such a progressive disease that most of us turn out to be alone - parents with no support from their other parent. There comes a time (without recovery) that you cannot rely on the chemically addicted parent whatsoever to be with your children. This sucks. In" normal divorce" cases there are 2 parents and responsibilities with children can be shared. The acceptance of this can be a driving force that moves us into a stronger recovery. It helped me when I realised that my children need me healthy - I have a responsibility towards them - not him. My STBXAH is a big boy !