I remember when I thought separating from XABF and living on my own would be impossible. I don't know what I thought would happen to me exactly, but I was convinced that life would just end somehow. Well, it doesn't end. Shocking!
It really can be done. You really can go no contact with an addict. You really can refuse contact unless it's over XYZ and stick to that rule. You really can live without addiciton in your life day in and day out.
Why is it so unfathomable at the time we are in it???
So glad you are finding strength in your boundaries and joy in living life on your own terms for your helath and not for his addiction.
Alice