Originally Posted by
Toronto68 
Yeahgr8, I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with her being around people that are drinking. What matters is whether she is coping with her recognition of the fact she cannot drink, and unless I am missing something, she is doing that. If it doesn't make sense for her to be in that context in order to be mindful about her sobriety, then I would understand if she decided to avoid the context. Also: I realize we all have to be ourselves, but saying "your fault" to somebody seems too abrasive, like you are breathing down her neck. You will probably get closer to helping her by not using that approach, and I suspect your intention is to be helpful.
Nope my intention is for her to think about what she is doing not to give a totally unhelpful pat on the back and a glib remark like 'everything will be ok'...
It is not the friend's fault that they may not have the correct information too be able to make an informed decision.
You comment about you thinking it is ok to hang around with other people drinking in early recovery is based on your experience or is just an opinion? I.e. are you sober and did you change nothing else but stop drinking?
Not trying to offend anyone, maybe some food for thought...maybe not? It's not Houndheart's first post i am sure she will have a read and then agree or not?!