((Sis)) - I would imagine you are probably feeling a little bit of fear, also, since you are questioning whether your relationship is going to be stronger than his need for the pills. It's hard seeing someone we love in pain, but he's abused the trust of you AND his doctor so he has to deal with those consequences.
Try to put the focus back on you. Yes, he may be in legitimate pain, but there are millions of people who deal with this and handle it responsibly - we have several RA's here who deal with chronic pain on a daily basis and are accountable to themselves, their partners and their doctors. It can be done. So, let him do it.....focus on what you are feeling and what YOU need to work on while he's working on his issues. As a codie, I was so wrapped up in HIS stuff, I didn't even KNOW what "my stuff" was for a while..I had to read here to figure that out, by what others were doing.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy