You are right I do need to read the book about co-dependancy. I just read the sticky and realized....I am a codie. It almost made me sick how many of those things on there described me to a tee. I cannot help anyone really, because I have never learned to help myself....and it's almost shocking to me. Now I need to learn how to work on myself, and maybe someday I can let go and be truley happy in life instead of just telling myself things.