What is in your heart for your SELF? What is your wildest dream? Is there one place you have always wanted to travel to? Did you always want to pursue some class or degree or other education that you haven't yet? Do you have a bucket list? Do you have girlfriends you like to hang out with? Hobbies you enjoy alone or with friends? How full is your life without him? Because The fuller your life, the more you fill your heart with dreams for your SELF, the more actively you pursue these things and the less fearful you become of letting go and possibly making a "mistake."