My two cents on the legal advice is that I don't see anything wrong with consulting with an attorney to get and understand options.
It doesn't mean that action needs to be or will be taken, it is for protection.
And if there are services offered through the university re: counseling or legal, then I think that you have every right to utilize those departments. That is what they are there for.... YOU and for your well being and protection.
And yes, counseling services through the university are confidential.
Mlewis, really you do whatever it is that you need to do to untangle yourself from this situation.