Thank you all.
I am definitely recovering co-dependent. I seem to be doing well in other areas of my life. But dealing with him, well clearly, I haven't quite mastered it.
I do need to find a new counselor. Changes in insurance and jobs has been a problem. I haven't found an Al-Anon group in my new area that really seems to resonate with me. The folks who attend all seem to have been going for a long time and seem to be in a much different place than me. I'm looking for one closer to work.