Originally Posted by
BeautifulG 
I think I am trapped by it.
I know for sure that he isn't truly ready yet for a healthy relationship.
Why am I so afraid to be wrong? Its almost paralyzing.
Please help sort through this?
Perhaps neither of you are "ready" for a healthy relationship. You worked hard on this situation. Start healing and have a healthy relationship with yourself. If you have not try going to Alanon and talk to those that have been through what you are going through now.