ya know, if i found out my sibling, boyfriend, daughter, was "talking about me" behind my back, i'd be like "ok - so what?" we all do things we're ashamed of from time to time, and are embarrassed about, but when they are in the realm of human-type, good faith mistakes, judgement errors, i think we can just accept them for what they are.
"If it's a secret, it's not ok"
good mantra to live by.