Originally Posted by
Freedom1990 
I won't tell you how many failed partnerships I had.
It was painful, and a real eye-opener for me when I realized the one common denominator in all of them was me.
LOL! Thanks!
For me, it has been that I got good at the list of what I wanted in a partner, and have found better and better partners. I just didn't make the list of what I NEEDED and what I WOULD NOT TOLERATE.
Also, that I tended to give up my stand if opposed. (Where's the assertiveness training when you need it? Oh yea, right here on SR!)
So when my needs conflicted with their needs/wants...well, you know the story.
But, I am LEARNING! WOOHOO!
MY NEEDS MATTER!
WOOHOO!
And they matter regardless of if others :
* oppose
* stonewall
* complain
* blame
* get mad
* feel hurt
* feel disappointed
* feel "devastated"
* get angry
* try to distract me
* try to ignore them
* get depressed
* walk out dramatically
* try to make me feel bad, guilty, sad, mad, etc.
and on and on and on.
Doesn't matter. 'Cuz I have a strong center in MYSELF and I know that I'm okay and I matter and my needs matter.
Nothing - and I mean nothing - can get in the way of my honoring myself!!
WOOHOO!!