Originally Posted by
MeHandle 
It was an eye opener for me to read on this forum about those who have alcoholic partners who are also narcissistic. 2 different issues, one making the other worse i would guess. Maybe it is just selfishness that really stands out at a time like what you were going through.
No , my stbx AH would not be like that in a situation that you are going through. He more likely would feel guilty for some reason and/or he would make sure to let me know not to worry, he would do the right thing and take care of everything while I couldn't help. He would want me to concentrate on me and the baby.
i, too, like to give credit where credit is due. my xah would also have treated me tenderly in this situation. he was (is) alcoholic, but genuinely kind most of the time.