(((Wildworld))) - I had to read here, a LOT, before things started sinking in. I have an addict stepmom, an enabler dad, and a 16-year-old niece who is a pretty good con artists (as a lot of teens are). I also had an addict XABF and some friends who were A's. Needless to say, I needed a lot of guidance.
It took time for me to "get it" and I still fall back a few steps. My recommendation is keep going to meetings and keep reading here. I love my niece, as if she were my child, and I have an idea of what it would be like if she becomes an addict and I have to do the "tough love" stuff on her. I've been preparing her for it, all along, but I'm sure it won't make things easier if it happens.
Just know that there are many, many people here who know what you're going through and they are here to support you. Post, read, and reach out for support.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy