((Wildworld)) - welcome to SR!
While I can see why you're a bit frustrated, I have to say it sounds like you've got some good recovery tools you're working with for YOU!
I'm an RA (recovering addict) and a codie, and I think that you are exactly right in not stressing your financial situation to keep her in this sober house. While sober houses are great, and helpful to many, some of us got clean without them, because we wanted recovery more than anything else. For me, family stepped out of the way and let me fall on my face, and figure out how to get back up on my own, and I will forever be grateful.
It's a bit slow, here, on the weekends, but I'm sure others will be along. You've come to a place where there is a ton of ES&H, and I'm glad you finally posted.
Hugs and prayers!
Amy