teke,
I'm so sorry to hear this....I do have to be honest though, how many times I have thought "what if" I were to get that call one day that AH has died....how would I and children handle such a thing....and I can probably say this for many spouses of addicts here. This thought does cross our minds. How many are ever prepared for such a call?
You have handled it with so much grace and dignity for your children, yourself and your AH. I just wanna send you big big hugs.