Originally Posted by
coffeedrinker 
I think you are wise to have a plan. It is awful waiting for the other shoe to drop, but with a plan in your head, you will be much more likely to follow through. That is what I did and it was almost like Dominoes, how everything fell into place.
Here we are for you!
What happened with you and your kids?
One of the reasons I gave my husband the ultimatum is that our oldest, age 9, commented that he didn't care what I thought at all. It was just like saying he didn't have any respect for me. And he didn't/doesn't.
And I am sure I will follow through. If I was strong enough to take the stand, I can do this, too. But we're not a partnership anymore, I'm holding a gun to his head. I can do this, but I'm so sad about everything. I was seeing a therapist, but got tired of her just saying, "Well you have to decide how you feel about that..."