Originally Posted by
Janeene 
Why wouldn't you want people to know that you'd stopped drinking so that they could be supportive? My family and friends all know.
Because he is not committed. He is setting up his next "relapse".
I think you are wise to have a plan. It is awful waiting for the other shoe to drop, but with a plan in your head, you will be much more likely to follow through. That is what I did and it was almost like Dominoes, how everything fell into place.
Also: you said you know you know you can handle it, but what about your kids? Of course there will be sadness, maybe some anger (perhaps at you, cuz even if you don't tell them, they will know you instigated the divorce) and an adjustment period. But yes, they can most certainly handle it.
They really can.
Here we are for you!