Thank you for asking. I feel as if I see this very clearly. We're just waiting for a relapse, then I go through with the divorce. I had hoped that the fear of losing us would change him, but I see now that isn't happening. He's doing stuff like coaching our son's T-ball team and otherwise acting like he's OK. But every time he's a minute late coming home from work, I get scared. I wonder what "taking care of myself and the kids" means. It makes them so happy when he's around and sober. I keep thinking that he's made it one more day with them, and that's good, but on the other hand, I almost want him to relapse and get it over with so I don't have to dread it. I can handle it but the kids...I don't know.
Nobody has told his parents but 2 of his brothers who are recovering alcoholics know. I know he'd be furious if I told them but I wonder if I should. Why wouldn't you want people to know that you'd stopped drinking so that they could be supportive? My family and friends all know.