Welcome to SR, Donna. I've found a lot of support here with this truly anonymous outlet for sharing feelings, emotions, and facts about alcoholism. You sound like someone who wants to tackle a growing problem with alcohol before you approach rock-bottom, and from my own experience, I can't encourage you enough to continue the path you've started by posting on SR. Not drinking is a challenge, but it's something I'm increasingly thankful for with each passing day.
Many of the seasoned folks on this forum will suggest you consult with a doctor. If that's what it takes to get the process of recovery started, then I encourage you to do so ASAP. And please keep posting.