We are all right here with you, Janeene - although at different points in our own recovery and with spouses/SO/family members in differents stages of their denial and/or recovery.
Your H is not in recovery. He is merely not drinking right now. He hasn't changed his behaviors and he isn't a healthy member of your family. You and your kiddos might as well focus on getting yourselves healthy as you can't do anything about him right now.
Welcome.