how do you...?
the truth is he just doesn't see it. he really doesn't. i am glad he's not in the home, around the children. although you didn't really take to al-anon, there is ala-tot and ala-teen in larger cites. my children weren't told too much at a young age, but i incorporated this and that, bits of infomation in just day-to-day life. now that they are young adults, i think they have always thought of their dad as alcohlic. the good news about all that, is that i started educating them, and acquiring tools that i then tried to hand down to them.