Thanks for the input. I went to Al-Anon for a long time, tried different meetings, etc. but it wasn't helping me. After each meeting I felt even more hopeless.
It was through the strength and advice of a friend that I managed to take the actions I did.
My husband says AA and the recovery program don't work for him because he "has control over alcohol." He can't get to step 1, admitting he's powerless. When I talk to him, he doesn't listen.
After I said he couldn't drink in our home, he moved out so he could continue drinking. I explained to the kids that I loved him and hoped he would get better but that he was sick. He doesn't want me to tell the kids he's an alcoholic but how else to explain his behavior?
I feel like we're all just waiting for him to come home drunk, then I divorce him. I guess it's up to him, but how to make him realize and accept that he's an alcoholic?