Have you gone to Al-Anon to get some much needed support?
Right now, it's a bit early to be repairing the relationship. As you said, you feel as though you're waiting for him to relapse. If I understand correctly, your husband has only been sober 3 months now? That is a very short amount of time, and he is currently without any suppport. I think I've read on SR that *usually*, AA recommends not making any major decisions in the first year of sobriety...so perhaps you can put your relationship with him on hold while you focus on yourself?