Have you asked your kids if they even want to go see their father? If they say NO, I wouldn't let them go over there. Some people say that children need both parents in their lives...but I don't believe that...not if the parent is a self consuming alcoholic..
My parents got divorced when I was younger because my father left my mother for someone 19 years younger...I only went over there on weekends, and I hated it...
He was always drunk, and so mean and judgmental...
I never thought I was good enough for him, and still don't....I haven't talk to him in years! I hate him so much!
He has screwed up my way of thinking...I'm 23 now, and still feel like a child sometimes...searching for love...ironically from other alcoholics...
I'm slowly starting to learn that I can't change people, and I need to work on myself...
But I will NEVER forget everything my father has done...he has scared me emotionally and I'll never be able to forgive him....
Sick son of bitch!