He western unioned the security deposit back to my mother and he is getting his check reimbersed, mom checked with his boss and it has not been cashed, he did not use, he wanted to use but he didnt, that is one thing we are all sure of, why he did what he did i have no idea, my question was how do i learn how to focus on me and my life instead of obsessing over his, not whether or not he used because he definitely 100% did not use.........dont wanna sound rude but it kind of bothered me that people suggested he did