UNlearning codependancy is really hard stuff. Your BROTHER is his own person. He's a grown butt man. If you express your love for him and pray alot, maybe everything will be okay. Kinda looks like meeting a romantic interest in a meeting may not be ideal. It's kinda like looking for broken people to hook up with. But it's HIS choice. Do you. My solution of everything is take a bubble bath and read a good book. Shave, lotion youself up and relax.