Thankyou Stella27. Yes I guess he is something of a drama queen. I don't see the threats etc as all that sinister or scary because he delivers them in such a gentle manner.
Miyah, I'm sorry to hear you had such a rough ride. It opened my eyes some more though. These are the reasons why I forced myself to run with my head and not my heart and declare myself a friend and nothing more.
He doesnt seem to be able to navigate around the 'good friend' offer though, which puzzles me. He's put up all his barriers since I said that. He doesn't seem to see the value in a friend, or something like that - I suspect he wont let me in now that I am not the gf. I haven't heard from him for a couple of days, which is unusual. It's like I had to be in love with him for him see me as any worth. I wonder if it's down to me breaking his heart in some way... or if there are some underlying issue with relationships (any kind) here... or if it's just the alcoholic/recovering mindset at play?