Originally Posted by
qazqaz 
even though we've only really known each other for 2 months & most of that has been the emotional rollercoaster of me telling him to change
why are you with him? (don't tell me, write it down for yourself)
what are you doing in a relationship that is 2 months old, where most of the time you wanted him to change?
is that where you start a relationship? not liking the person very much? having huge doubts about their motivation? wouldn't it be better to be with someone you liked as they were, whose motivation you trusted?
Are you buying into his "the one" statements? what does being "the one" mean to you? What does finding "the one" mean to you?
Is marriage something you want? consider that this may be a "hook" to keep you right there, supporting him emotionally: promises of a wonderful future kept me in a nightmare "now" for a decade.