One other thing - Yes I went to an al-anon meeting. He knows i went and now has that down as another reason why I am 'the one', because nobody else in his life has ever gone. When I told him it was as a friend he went all cold and just said that I wouldn't need to go again then and that he'd go early and leave late so he'd miss me incase I went, coz as a friend he never wanted to see me again.