I just want to help him balance out. you only have been in touch with him and interactive for 2 months. Be a friend. Draw your boundaries. Just my thoughts, but he is saying exactly what he knows you want to hear...and preying on that. Have you gone to an AA or AlAnon meeting? It's the best thing you can do for you in a realm of self preservation. Yes, you can angle being a good friend! A friend with boundaries. One thing I know in my heart, is that even if my ABF got clean, there is a strong possibility (stonger than not) that he would've finally become the man I wanted and always knew he could be...but that he may not have wanted me.