When my IV using and alcoholic fiance' overdosed and died, a woman came to my home and said "that's why we broke up". That was over 10 years prior to us! I am now beginning to deal with the resentments I've acquired due to sooooo muuuuch wasted money, time, emotion, etc. My person got lost in this person and I'm not the addict. I think it's normal to feel some resentment and anger toward the waste of it all. It's not healthy to hang on to it though. I am starting to consider the whole event of three years a very hard life lesson.