For me I seem to be finally accepting that change is what I have to do. I have resisted change but really it's about growing and not being stagnant. If things never change as they say then nothing ever changes. Is this what you want for nothing to ever change? I know in my active addiction I would have grown or changed at a much faster rate for the better if my family had set boundaries and not enabled me so much. It finally has all worked out but I had to accept the fact that I could not continue with the status that my life was -- things had to change. I like anyone like my comfort zone but not all of those zones are healthy or good for me. Hope you find the courage to make changes.