Originally Posted by
Anna 
I really hope you can focus on yourself and getting support for you. I think you need to remember that your wife needs to want to get better and you can't make her do it. I know that firsthand, because my husband tried to make me stop drinking and it didn't work.
The alcohol may or may not be her first issue. Many of us here had undiagnosed and/or untreated mental illness which led to self-medication with alcohol. It is certainly possible that the bipolar issue caused the alcoholism.
That is a good point! She has always been a drinker just her level of drinking increased over the last couple of years. She can never truly exercise without drinking therefore she won't aggressively loose weight even if she wanted to. i know she was really used to getting attention because she is a pretty girl but now she is a apretty girl in her mind. She feels she gets ignored a lot now. she is one of those people that like to be the center of attention.