Originally Posted by GiveLove

I know that's what it feels like. I have been there too. The "now or never" feeling is very strong, but it's an illusion, really. I've had to let go of houses, and I thought I was giving up my dream. In reality, the next month there were five more that were more appropriate, more affordable, and would be mine, not my alcoholic's.

You might ask yourself if you want to pour your limited resources right now into a home that you will not get to live in very long.

In that scenario, you will not even have the resources to start over. You will have given them all to a sick, unstable, active alcoholic. In my case, the alcoholic then foreclosed and lost the house several months later, and NO ONE had anything.

Just consider it, and do talk to an attorney. Regardless of the choices you think you have or don't have, arm yourself with facts, not emotions.