WELCOME TO SR Flattrackbaby!!!!!
I would take the first step by informing yourself all about alcoholism. I am an alcoholic yet I didn't know a darn thing about it.
This site is a treasure trove of information, and SR is how I learned so much about this disease. Check out lots of the stickies here and quotes from books like "Under the Influence". There is a lot to learn!
I am sorry to hear you had a bad experience with AA. Sadly, there are AA groups that simply are not well organized and it just drives me nuts that the wrong stray comment here or there may send a newcomer away. But, it happens.
Please keep in mind it is a totally volunteer organization so F-ing up does often go without repurcussions. That said, AA is the program of my recovery.
Binge drinkers can indeed be alcoholic. I was both a daily and a binger, so you can imagine what my roller coaster looked like.
Yes, genetics may come into play. I have a hard time finding someone in my family who is NOT an alcoholic.
Keep coming back! You will find amazing support and fellowship here!