Whenever I start feeling so OLD at 39, I remember that according to my mom, my MIL and all her friends that I AM SO YOUNG!!!
Seriously. I hear you on the property issues. Please go see a lawyer. He or she could advise you on the property and I don't think it will be as dire as you think.
In the meantime, start scrounging and saving.
And believe me when I tell you that I would rather work til I'm 80 and live in a hovel that is my own than share my living space with an active AH again.
I have been out for almost 5 months and you can't imagine how happy and easy my days are (even with 3 little kids) compared to what I was living with before.
My suggestions to you:
Enjoy your 30 days.
See a lawyer before day 10
Start making your plans by day 14.
But certainly, today, on days 1, 2, 3, etc., you deserve some peace and time to get your mind quiet. Maybe at the most, you should go to al-anon and just listen.
Be good to yourself.