I feel like I am growing up and she is going the other way showing more immaturity when our kids need guidance, a good vision plan for their lives. I have always been the calm one in the relationship. I have always talked her out of situations keeping her calm when she needed to have a cool head. She would have been incarcerated 10 times over hadn't I done those things. She is more mellow today because of me. I have taught her not everything deserves a direct response to her aggressiveness or actions.