Hi all4him
Welcome to SR
I don't know whether you're bf is an alcoholic or not - for me, how much we drink or how frequently is not as important as why we drink, how we drink...or what happens to us when we drink (or don't drink).
I think the really important question is how does his drinking or non drinking, and especially his anger, affect you?
We have a friend and families section here as well - if you want to check it out, you will find people down there to help too
Friends and Family of Alcoholics - SoberRecovery : Alcoholism Drug Addiction Help and Information
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