Originally Posted by
transformyself 
In the past, this type of crap from him worked to his advantage. So well. I would either:
scurry around, doing whatever he wanted to try to placate him or
blow up. then he could justify his resentment and whatever course of action he took based on what a witch his wife is.
He's just doing what he does. The important question is why am I reacting so strongly? And how long do I want to dissect it before moving on, gratefully, without him?
Tran-I just lived this...he is doing what he needs to do to justify what disrespect he plans for you and your marriage. They do it...because in our desire to get them to grow up...we let them.
There was a phrase that was posted recently:
When I settle for less than I deserve...I get less than I settled for.
I don't know the answer...but maybe when we respect ourselves more...they will too.
