Hi there............
I wanted you to know, that I have given advice to people who ask when ENTERING a NEW relationship with someone in ACTIVE addiction, to RUN. (only because after 3yrs of a relationship w/ my abf, he became addicted to pills). I would qualify this as a nightmare, it's destroyed the trust in our relationship.... and undermines the foundation of it. Furthermore, it causes people to become selfish, and in a relationship this dosen't work.
From what I've read, your boyfriend has been patient and loving and accepting with you. Perhaps give him the same respect, of being patient and respectful of his choices to 'take it slow'. This just gives both of you time, to become comfortable with your sobriety. It allows him to not feel that he will have 'the other shoe drop', and you can be sure that your sobriety remains paramount -- to anything else.
I'm glad that you came here and asked the question...so I can give you props for doing so well!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Congrats!
Love,
Cess