Originally Posted by
KeepPedaling 
Spinner, how long did your moments of thinking "oh he's finally got it together" last?
My moments of thinking he'd gotten things together sometimes lasted a few weeks, until some other crisis happened. The latest was last fall when he filed 10 years of tax returns he had neglected. I made the mistake of taking him back then, until some other crisis erupted.
I remember when we first started going out that he never seemed to be able to relax. He could never sit down at the end of a day and says "Ahhh. What a good day" and enjoy the sunset. There was always some crisis hanging over his head (taxes, work to do, health matters). Now I realize that's just how he is all the time. I can't live with that.
Originally Posted by
KeepPedaling What was his longest time sober? How long did he drink? My xabf drank for about 15 years I guess. Long time. I can't really fathom the idea of spending so much of my life intoxicated. I wonder if they've ever done a more specific study of recovery rates, like the recovery rates based on years of drinking (for example: 3 year active alcoholics recovery rate is 50%; 15 years is 20% etc).
My ex drank from the age of 15 to 50. He's been sober now for almost 3 years. I've only know him for almost 5 years so I don't know how often he tried to get sober before. I know he never seriously tried.
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