So many people will say that "drinking will just make things worse" but no one realizes how we see drugs and alcohol. As an addict, it is virtually impossible to think 2 steps ahead. All we know is the bottle or the drug can numb us or dilute the pain we feel. We cannot rationalize things in the big picture as you can when you are sober. I used to preach that way when I was 100% sober. Now, as an addict, I KNOW you must live this hell to full grasp its power and destruction. How to beat the hell of addiction will most certainly be different for each person but one thing is universal and that is our brains are re wired. I believe THIS is where the change must begin. To "tough it out" has a HORRIBLE success rate. We need to find ways to "re wire" our brains back to normal. I am looking for my way as well. I wish you all the best in your struggles. I am with you all. Rob