Gentle. Gentle.
Gentle with yourself and his wounded, yuck self.
Breathe.
You get your mind to do with as you please. You don't get his behavior to do with as you please. He is who he is.
You allow yourself to ease. Relax. Breathe.
You are okay.
You have much good to be thankful for.
You are separated from him, so, good for you for taking care of yourself.
You got him out of your house, now work on getting him out of your head.
Hugs.
Wife