thank you thank you thank you for your reply , i greatly appreciate it . ive just read some of the threads in 'best of sober recovery ' - wow wee !!!!!!!!!!
i guess i completely play the blame game ( i blame his upbringing and today accused him of transferring his HATE for his mum ,onto me ) and i continually rack my brain to think if only i could find the right words .
ive tired al-anon in the past , and coming from a smallish city , most of the members seemed to be older ladies that had been battered physically and emotionally for years and i thought my story was not 'bad' enough because he never physically abused me .
so i should read read and read some more and rejoin al anon ?
how do i explain to the kids dads not going to be here for the bithday party tomorrow ?
many thanks x