No you are not alone. My exah still does not acknowledge any of the horrible things he has done to us and this family. He goes as far as saying he has made mistakes, never clarifies what they are, but then is sure to point out ALL of my shortcomings.
A month or so ago my exah told me he wanted to go slow and see what happens with us. Well, slow meant him cake eating on a more regular basis and dropping any sort of visit schedule and letting him come and go as he pleases...OH and also that would mean me not making him pay CS and also buying him new tires on his truck. I didn't do either of those!
Changes have to be more than good intentions via text messages for me.
I am with you! Making 2010 a happy year!