You came to the right place. I am glad you posted. My H and I are separated b/c he called the police when I locked him out of the bedroom. That was a year ago. He got sober but has not maintained any treatment so he is pretty much the same without the alcohol which is harder to take.
Due to his rotten attitude and runaway behavior I have cut all contact with him as of two weeks ago. Today he has been emailing me when I didn't answer the phone. He trying to pull out all the stops to get a response. It hurts a lot but I have to believe that his family (some who are in recovery) understand my position while they support him.
Hang in there, it will all work out, just keep two things in mind - he has to be sober before anything changes, and take care of yourself.
