hmm, well, i know you are trying to be helpful (codies often are=), but in my experience with my 4 grandparents, spouses had to tread very lightly, even if they were totally involved. my dad has been with his girlfriend for 5 or 6 years at least, and she is a nursing student. She liked my grand dad quite a bit, but my sister and my aunt would rage if she were allowed to voice anything about the care of gramps. Because I was his live in caregiver, I would simply email the same letter to all 3 sibs and tell them what the situation was, and they 3 would pow wow about what to do.
it was still hard
Todays reading: Boy, I sure dont feel like bringing furniture in yet, but it is good to know that is the eventual goal=)