(((Jane))) thank you!
I read, on here, a LOT...old posts, present posts...everything. The more I read, the more I saw "me". I'd read "codependent no more" YEARS ago, when I was with XABF#1 but though I could see I had some "issues" I was not ready to deal with them.
When I started reading here, I would try things that worked for other people, even if the situations were different...baby steps...like not arguing back with my 16-year-old niece, even though I almost had to bite my tongue in two
All it ever did was get ME more upset and off balance, so I would just go to my room and not talk to her. That was the start of an awesome relationship with her, and she is picking up on MY behaviors in how to deal with stuff.
To me, codie recovery is harder than addiction recovery...we HAVE to be around people all the time..we don't have to be around the drugs. However, with time and taking those baby steps, it is very rewarding and life gets oh, so much better!!
Love, hugs and prayers!
Amy