Hi Dari,
Welcome!
I was in a similar situation, growing up with two functioning alcoholic parents. My mother was the worst, and I remember focusing on 'not being like my mother'. Ironically, I ended up just like my mother. The lesson for me there, was to focus on who I wanted to be, rather than who I didn't want to be. So, when I stopped drinking I was absolutely lost and had to begin to figure out who I was.
My favorite book about addiction is "Drinking: A Love Story" by Caroline Knapp. It's a memoir of a young, high-functioning alcoholic, her love affair with alcohol, and mourning the loss when she begins to recover.